I woke up this morning still feeling appalled and aghast at the audacity of a work colleague of mine. Suffice to say, I was discouraged and de-motivated to go into the office, I had schemes of sabotage running around in my head, making me spin with anger.
But I am better than that. I choose to excel, not to compete.
I realised that this individual's behaviour is typical of a bully. What do you do with bullies? You show them what love can do. You show them their behaviour is not acceptable. Sometimes it's hard, sometimes it stinks. But the trick is, one cannot be drawn down to their level. This individual is clearly in a lot of pain and suffering for some reason and lashes out.
Can you change a bully? No, just as you cannot change a leopard's spots. I know I am a good writer, I inspire many. I know I am a good leader, I have led teams through significant change. However, I cannot manage someone who does not want to be led. Who consistently and seemingly purposely ignores the rules of engagement. Who chooses to pick only those rules that suit. Who blatantly ignores processes many hold dear. Who is selfish, arrogant and manipulative.
I am clearly disappointed in this individual's behaviour. I cannot let one bad seed (or the so-called 2%) ruin the whole crop. I have a responsibility to 'correct' but to do it gently, with honor and grace.
I have a responsibility to the whole. I will turn my attention to them and, today, I choose to ignore the bully. When I am calmer, I shall respond with a clear mind.
Breathe in... breathe out...I know what will restore my faith. Rock 'n' Roll!!
